“Return” Resources

Bonus Resources

Notes and Citations

Introduction

xvii, “My son and his wife…” – Quoted in Lorene Hanley Duquin, When a Loved One Leaves the Church (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2001), 45.
xvii, “All of this is so humiliating…” – Quoted in Lorene Hanley Duquin, When a Loved One Leaves the Church (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2001), 46.

Chapter 1 – Why Are They Leaving?

2, “The latest data shows that half…”
2, “…just 7% of young people raised in the Church still actively practice their faith…” – Quoted in Thomas Baker, “Young Catholic America”, Commonweal Magazine, October 9, 2014.
2, “…eight-in-ten (79%) who drift away from faith leave before age 23…” – Cited by Pew Research Center, “The Shifting Religious Identity of Latinos in the United States”, May 7, 2014.
3, “…one-in-four Hispanics in America are now former Catholics…” – Cited by Pew Research Center, “The Shifting Religious Identity of Latinos in the United States”, May 7, 2014.
3, “As many as there are people.” – Pope Benedict XVI and Peter Seewald, Salt of the Earth: Christianity and the Catholic Church at the End of the Millennium (San Francisco: Ignatius Press, 1997), 8.
3, “The Church is a house with a hundred gates…” – G.K. Chesterton, The Catholic Church and Conversion (San Francisco: Ignatius Press, 2007, original 1926), 38.
3, “…for every person who becomes Catholic, roughly 6.5 leave the Church.” – Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 14.
5, “Here were the most common reasons people gave…” – Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life, “Faith in Flux: Changes in Religious Affiliation in the U.S.”, April 2009, 6.
6-7, “The Diocese of Trenton, NJ found similar conclusions…” – Quoted in William J. Bryan, “Why They Left”, America, April 30, 2012. Accessed online at http://americamagazine.org/issue/5138/article/why-they-left.
8, “One student responded…” – Sarah, “Christian Formation and the Cost of the Culture Wars”, A Queer Calling, May 1, 2014. Accessed online at http://aqueercalling.com/author/hamsterandsquirrelgmail-com.
8, “…among former Catholic who are now unaffiliated with any religion…” – Pew Research Center, “U.S. Religious Landscape Survey”, June 1, 2008.
8, “A group of Notre Dame researchers found…” – Quoted by Ann Carey, “Portrait of young Catholics sobering but vital”, Our Sunday Visitor, June 11, 2014.
9, “…what sociologists Christian Smith and Melinda Lundquist Denton have coined ‘moralistic therapeutic deism.’” – See Christian Smith and Melinda Lundquist Denton, Soul Searching: The Religious and Spiritual Lives of American Teenagers (Oxford: Oxford University Press, 2009), 163.
9, “More than half (54%) of nominally Catholic young adults believe in God but think he is not personal.” – Christian Smith, Kyle Longest, Jonathan Hill, Kari Christoffersen, Young Catholic America: Emerging Adults In, Out Of, and Gone from the Church (New York: Oxford University Press, 2014), 67.
10, “C.S. Lewis gives voice to this view…” – C.S. Lewis, The Problem of Pain (New York: Macmillan, 1962), 40.

Chapter 2 – Where Are They Going?

14, “From 2007 to 2014, the ‘unaffiliated’ percentage of America soared from 16% to 23%.” – Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 3.
14, “…21% were raised in an ‘unaffiliated’ home while 28% were raised Catholic…” – Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 43.
14, “Just 36.” – Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 5.
15, “…twice as likely now to identify as ‘nothing’ than as ‘Catholic.’” – Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 12.
15, “Some of their traits may surprise you…” – Pew Research Center, “‘Nones’ on the Rise”, October 9, 2012.
17, “If your son is like Rick, Madrid counsels…” – Patrick Madrid, Search and Rescue: How to Bring Your Family and Friends Into or Back Into the Catholic Church (Manchester, NH: Sophia Institute Press, 2001), 57.
17, “…share of American adults dropped from 18% in 2007 to 14% in 2014.” – Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 20.
19, “I believe in God and basically I celebrate Christmas.” – Quoted by Anna Sutherland, “Young Catholic America”, Books and Culture, May/June 2014.
19, “I simply don’t practice anymore.” – Via email.
19-20, “…as sociologist Christian Smith notes…” – Christian Smith, Kyle Longest, Jonathan Hill, Kari Christoffersen, Young Catholic America: Emerging Adults In, Out Of, and Gone from the Church (New York: Oxford University Press, 2014), 107.
20, “…getting up early on Sunday is difficult.” – Via email.
20, “Molly Oshatz, a Catholic who once identified as a ‘meh’ young adult herself…” – Molly Oshatz, First Things, “From ‘Meh’ to ‘Amen’”, June 8, 2015. Accessed online at http://www.firstthings.com/web-exclusives/2015/06/can-the-nones-go-from-meh-to-amen
21, “But as G.K. Chesterton observed…” – G.K. Chesterton, The Autobiography of G.K. Chesterton (San Francisco: Ignatius Press, 2006, original ed. 1936), 217.
21, “Frank Sheed and Maisie Ward…” – Frank Sheed and Maisie Ward, Catholic Evidence Training Outlines (Steubenville, OH; Franciscan University Press, 1993, original 1948), 158.
21, “He needs to see what the convert C.S. Lewis came to realize…” – C.S. Lewis, God in the Dock (Grand Rapids, MI: Eerdmans, 2014, original 1970), 102.
22, “Stephen, who grew up Catholic…” – Quoted in Lorene Hanley Duquin, When a Loved One Leaves the Church (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2001), 38.
24, “…explains researchers Christian Smith…” – Christian Smith, Kyle Longest, Jonathan Hill, Kari Christoffersen, Young Catholic America: Emerging Adults In, Out Of, and Gone from the Church (New York: Oxford University Press, 2014), 102.
24, “Their numbers have doubled over the last decade…” – Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 30.
24, “12% of former Catholics identify as atheist and 16% as agnostic.” – Cited by Mark Gray, “Your Average American Catholic”, America Magazine, May 18, 2015.

Chapter 3 – The Five Big Myths About Fallen-Away Catholics

28, “According to Notre Dame sociologists…” – Christian Smith, Kyle Longest, Jonathan Hill, Kari Christoffersen, Young Catholic America: Emerging Adults In, Out Of, and Gone from the Church (New York: Oxford University Press, 2014), 117
28, “Researches at the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia conclude…” – See “In Brief” section of report titled “Knot Yet: The Benefits and Costs of Delayed Marriage in America”. Accessed online at http://twentysomethingmarriage.org/in-brief.
29, “…the 2013 data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) revealed that…” – Quoted in Neil Shah, “Just How Much Did the Recession Make 20-Somethings Delay Children?”, Wall Street Journal, April 28, 2015. Accessed online at http://blogs.wsj.com/economics/2015/04/28/just-how-much-did-the-recession-make-20-somethings-delay-children.
30, “Lisa, a mother of two fallen-away Catholics…” – Via email.
30-31, “In their book, Young Catholic America…” – Christian Smith, Kyle Longest, Jonathan Hill, Kari Christoffersen, Young Catholic America: Emerging Adults In, Out Of, and Gone from the Church (New York: Oxford University Press, 2014), 253
31, “…have little to no effect on whether young people sustain their faith into adulthood.” – Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life, “Faith in Flux: Changes in Religious Affiliation in the U.S.”, April 2009, 11.
31, “In the Catechism of the Catholic Church…” – CCC 2225.
32, “Ronda’s son left the Church at age 16…” – Quoted in “To the Parent of a Prodigal”, Ronda’s Resting Place. Accessed online at http://rondasrestingplace.net/subpage29.html.
33, “As my friend Bert Ghezzi counsels…” – Bert Ghezzi, “When Someone You Love Leaves the Church”, pamphlet (Fort Wayne, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2009).
34, “…writes Carol Barnier…” – Carol Barnier, Engaging Today’s Prodigal: Clear Thinking, New Approaches, and Reasons for Hope (Chicago, IL: Moody Publishers, 2012), 111.

Chapter 4 – The Basics

40, “Catholic sociologist Christian Smith…” – Christian Smith, Kyle Longest, Jonathan Hill, Kari Christoffersen, Young Catholic America: Emerging Adults In, Out Of, and Gone from the Church (New York: Oxford University Press, 2014), 27
41, “Why? Because ‘close relationship to religious adults…’” – Ibid., 268.
41, “One young man confessed…” – Quoted in Lorene Hanley Duquin, When a Loved One Leaves the Church (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2001), 89.
42, “A priest recently observed to me…” – Via personal conversation.
44, “Abraham Piper, who drifted away from church as a teen…” – Abraham Piper, “Let Them Come Home,” Christianity.com, July 19, 2013. Accessed online at http://www.christianity.com/theology/12-ways-to-love-your-wayward-child-11625957.html.
44-45, “Pope Francis has spoken out often against…” – Pope Francis, “A Big Heart Open to God,” America
46, “Ugh! It just bugs me so much…” – Via email.
46, “My parents and grandparents send me at least one ridiculous email a day…” – Via email.
47, “St. John Paul Ii…summed up a better alternative strategy…” – Redemptoris Missio, 39.
51, “In fact, Weddell affirms…” – Sherry Weddell, Forming Intentional Disciples: The Path to Knowing and Following Jesus (Fort Wayne, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2015), 130
53, “…writes Abraham Piper, himself a former rebellious teenager…” – Abraham Piper, “Let Them Come Home,” Christianity.com, July 19, 2013. Accessed online at http://www.christianity.com/theology/12-ways-to-love-your-wayward-child-11625957.html.

Chapter 5 – Pray, Fast, and Sacrifice

58, “I prayed for St. Monica to intercede for our family members….” – Quoted by Joseph Pronechen, “St. Monica, Pray for Our Wayward Children’s Conversions”, National Catholic Register, August 24, 2013.
59, “By far, the most common responses were…” – Mary M. Gray, “The Catholic Family: 21st Century Challenges in the United States,” The Center for Applied Research in the Apostolate (CARA), June 2015
60, “Bishop Robert Barron once visited a college campus…” – See Bishop Robert Barron, “Bishop Barron on Evangelizing with the Heart of a Shepherd,” YouTube, September 25, 2014
61, “The survey of Catholic parents mentioned above asked…” – Mary M. Gray, “The Catholic Family: 21st Century Challenges in the United States,” The Center for Applied Research in the Apostolate (CARA), June 2015
64, “It is impossible for me to explain how helpful the Holy Hour has been…” – Fulton Sheen, Treasure In Clay: The Autobiography of Fulton J. Sheen (New York: Image Books, 2008, original 1980), 201-202.
65, “Our Lord told St. Faustina…” – St. Faustina Kowalski, Divine Mercy in My Soul (Stockbridge, MA: Congregation of Marians of the Immaculate Conception, 1987), 1209, 1397.
65-66, “Rhonda, a New Hampshire mother of three…” – Quoted by Marge Fenelon, “What to Do When Children Leave the Church”, National Catholic Register, May 27, 2011. Accessed online at http://www.ncregister.com/site/article/what-to-do-when-children-leave-the-church.
70, “My God, grant me the conversion of my parish…” – Quoted in Fr. Lance W. Harlow, “The immolations of the Cure d’Ars”, Homiletic and Pastoral Review, March 2011, 18-19.

Chapter 6 – Equip Yourself

86, “The difficulty of explaining ‘why I am a Catholic’…” – G.K. Chesterton, “Why I Am a Catholic”. Accessed online at http://www.chesterton.org/why-i-am-a-catholic.
89, “Your outline will include four elements…” – Shaun McAffee, Filling Our Father’s House: What Converts Can Teach Us About Evangelization (Manchester, NH: Sophia Institute Press, 2015), 37-38.
89, “All people of God have a unique story to tell…” – Ibid., 40.

Chapter 7 – Plant the Seeds

91, “I was baptized in the Catholic Church, and always called myself a Catholic…” – Via email.
92, “The great danger for any parent…” – Rob Parsons, Bringing Home the Prodigals (Colorado Springs, CO: Authentic Publishing, 2007), 34.
97, “When the Father’s house is filled with the Father’s love…” – Quoted in Rob Parsons, Bringing Home the Prodigals (Colorado Springs, CO: Authentic Publishing, 2007), 83
97, “Rob Parsons tells of a young man…” – Rob Parsons, Bringing Home the Prodigals (Colorado Springs, CO: Authentic Publishing, 2007), 13.
98, “Abraham Piper notes that…” – Abraham Piper, “Let Them Come Home,” Christianity.com, July 19, 2013. Accessed online at http://www.christianity.com/theology/12-ways-to-love-your-wayward-child-11625957.html.
99, “My son was given a copy of Rediscover Catholicism…” – Quoted in Matthew Kelly, The Four Signs of a Dynamic Catholic (Hebron, KY: Beacon Press, 2013), 101.
99, “Chela, the mother of a teenage agnostic, shared with me…” – Via email.
100-103, “One of my favorite ‘seed gift’ stories come from my friend Leila” – Leila Miller, “Part Two: My Mother-in-Law Carol’s Conversion Story”, Little Catholic Bubble blog, January 1, 2015. Accessed online at http://littlecatholicbubble.blogspot.com/2015/01/part-two-my-mother-in-law-carols.html.
104, “The head researcher explained…” – Larry Alex Taunton, “Listening to Young Atheists: Lessons for a Stronger Christianity,” The Atlantic, June 6, 2013. Accessed online at http://www.theatlantic.com/national/archive/2013/06/listening-to-young-atheists-lessons-for-a-stronger-christianity/276584.
105, “The Pew Research Center found…” – Amanda Lenhart, “Teens, Social Media & Technology Overview 2015,” Pew Research Center, April 9, 2015.

Chapter 8 – Start the Conversation

107, “A recent survey of young Catholics found…” – Mark Gray, “The Catholic Teenager: A few mysteries solved,” CARA 1984 blog, May 2, 2013. Accessed online at http://nineteensixty-four.blogspot.com/2013/05/the-catholic-teenager-few-mysteries.html.
107, “Although I can draw to Christ the souls of strangers…” – Patrick Madrid, Search and Rescue: How to Bring Your Family and Friends Into or Back Into the Catholic Church (Manchester, NH: Sophia Institute Press, 2001), xix.
107, “…what Christian author Gregory Koukl calls ‘friendly curiosity’…” – Gregory Koukl, Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2009), 20.
109, “Just ask about his soul…” – Abraham Piper, “Let Them Come Home,” Christianity.com, July 19, 2013. Accessed online at http://www.christianity.com/theology/12-ways-to-love-your-wayward-child-11625957.html.
110, “Theologian Francis Schaeffer was once asked…” – Quoted in Jonathan K. Dodson, The Unbelievable Gospel: Say Something Worth Believing (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2014), 51.
111-112, “Marcel LeJeune, campus minister at Texas A&M University…” – Marcel LeJeune, “Questions to Ask Others When Evangelizing,” Aggie Catholics Blog, May 11, 2015. Accessed online at http://www.aggiecatholicblog.org/2015/05/questions-to-ask-others-when-evangelizing
113, “Evangelist Gregory Koukl calls this the ‘Columbo tactic’…” – Gregory Koukl, Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2009), 47.
113, “…Trent Horn, expert apologist at Catholic Answers, has found five to be the most helpful…” – See Trent Horn, “The Apologist’s Most Important Tool,” Catholic Answers Blog. Accessed online at http://www.catholic.com/blog/trent-horn/the-apologist%E2%80%99s-most-important-tool.
116, “Gregory Koukl offers a similar approach…” – Gregory Koukl, Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2009), 86.

Chapter 9 – Move the Dialogue Forward

119, “Gregory Koukl has a good rule…” – Gregory Koukl, Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2009), 30
120, “…55% of communication is body language, 38% is tone of voice, and 7% is the actual words spoken.” – Jeff Thompson, “Is Nonverbal Communication a Numbers Game?”, Psychology Today. Accessed online at https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/beyond-words/201109/is-nonverbal-communication-numbers-game
122-123, “Anglican Bishop N.T. Wright offers a telling anecdote.” – N.T. Wright, “Jesus and the Identity of God,” Ex Auditu 1998, 14, 42–56. Accessed online at http://ntwrightpage.com/Wright_JIG.htm.
123, “Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen famous observed…” – Fulton Sheen, preface to Radio Replies, Volume 1. Accessed online at http://www.radioreplies.info/vol-1-preface.php
125-126, “Remaining calm while discussing faith with your child…” – Austen Ivereigh and Kathryn Jean Lopez, How to Defend the Faith Without Raising Your Voice: Civil Responses to Catholic Hot Button Issues, Revised and Updated (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2015), 15.
129, “‘Shoe pebble’ questions work in a similar way.” – Credit for “shoe pebble” concept goes to Gregory Koukl, Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2009), 38.
130, “…about 90% of Catholics giving him a favorable rating” – Pew Forum, “Pope Francis Viewed Positively by the U.S. Public and Catholics”. Accessed online at http://www.pewforum.org/2015/06/16/catholics-divided-over-global-warming
130, “One viral online article carried the title…” – Dave Sloan, “Pope Francis Made My Mom Stop Hating Catholicism,” Aleteia. Accessed online at http://www.newsmax.com/US/Pope-Frances-Catholic-aleteia-mother-despised/2015/04/06/id/636755.
131, “Another person shared the following story…” – Catholic Voices, “Ten Principles of Civil Communication,” Our Sunday Visitor, pamphlet.
132, “As Pope Francis says…” – Pope Francis, Angelus message, December 13, 2013.

Chapter 10 – Invite and Connect

139, “Pope Paul VI wrote…” – Paul VI, Evangelii Nuntiandi, 41.
141, “CARA, the leading Catholic research group, found that…” – Quoted in Mark Gray, “Lapsed Catholics weigh in on why they left the Church,” Our Sunday Visitor Newsweekly. Accessed online at https://www.osv.com/OSVNewsweekly/Article/TabId/535/ArtMID/13567/ArticleID/16269/Lapsed-Catholics-weigh-in-on-why-they-left-Church.aspx#sthash.FhfEB8uj.dpuf
143-144, “It would have been hard to stick with the Mass…” – Quoted in Kristin Peterson, “You can go home again: Catholics return to the church”, US Catholic, June 1, 2010. Accessed online at http://www.uscatholic.org/church/2010/06/you-can-go-home-again-catholics-return-church
144, “Carol Barnier knows this from experience…” – Carol Barnier, Engaging Today’s Prodigal: Clear Thinking, New Approaches, and Reasons for Hope (Chicago, IL: Moody Publishers, 2012), 111.
145, “Think of your own journey to Christ…” – Gregory Koukl, Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2009), 39.

Chapter 11 – Close the Loop

147, “Catholics stop too soon when they evangelize…” – Marcel LeJeune, “The Fatal Flaw of Catholics Who Evangelize,” Aggie Catholics Blog, June 1, 2015.
147 – “Shaun McAfee, a recent convert to Catholicism…” – Shaun McAffee, Filling Our Father’s House: What Converts Can Teach Us About Evangelization (Manchester, NH: Sophia Institute Press, 2015), 45.
149, “Campus minister Marcel LeJeune adds one more bit of advice…” – Marcel LeJeune, “The Fatal Flaw of Catholics Who Evangelize,” Aggie Catholics Blog, June 1, 2015.
154, “Instead, as one author put it, parishes today are…” – Sally L. Mews, Returning Home to Your Catholic Faith: An Invitation (Liguori, MO: Liguori Publications, 2003), 25.
156, “Since cohabitation is not in itself a canonical impediment to marriage…” – United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, “Marriage Preparation And Cohabiting Couples: An Information Report on New Realities and Pastoral Practices”, 1999. Accessed online at http://www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/marriage-and-family/marriage/marriage-preparation/cohabiting.cfm.
157, “I wish I could come back to the Catholic Church…” – Quoted in Pete Vere, “Strong Medicine”, Catholic Answers Magazine, Volume 18, Number 9.
159, “Lorene Hanley Duquin debunks some other popular myths about annulments…” – Lorene Hanley Duquin, When a Loved One Leaves the Church (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2001), 198.

Chapter 12 – Personal Objections

168, “Only 46% of Catholics are aware…” – Mark M. Gray, “Your Average American Catholic”, America, May 18, 2015. Accessed online at http://americamagazine.org/issue/your-average-american-catholic.
168-169, “Researchers from the Diocese of Trenton, New Jersey…” – See William J. Bryan, “Why They Left”, America, April 30, 2012. Accessed online at http://americamagazine.org/issue/5138/article/why-they-left.
171, “A recent survey found that only 61% of Catholic teens agree…” – Mark M. Gray, “The Catholic Teenager: A few mysteries solved,” 1984 Blog. Accessed online at http://nineteensixty-four.blogspot.com/2013/05/the-catholic-teenager-few-mysteries.html.
172, “To get rid of my sins.” – G.K. Chesterton, The Autobiography of G.K.Chesterton (San Francisco: Ignatius Press, 2006, original 1936), 324.
175, “A recent Pew Forum survey found that nearly 40% of marriages…” – Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape,” May 12, 2015
176, “Elizabeth struggled with her faith for many years…” – Via email.
176-177, “Marisa offers another heartbreaking experience.” – Via email.
177, “My sister says Catholics are hypocrites…” – Quoted in Lorene Hanley Duquin, When a Loved One Leaves the Church (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2001), 22.
178-179, “…he usually answers with this…” – Fr. Andrew Carrozza, “God would never forgive me THAT!” Accessed online at http://fathercarrozza.com/2012/08/24/god-would-never-forgive-me-that.

Chapter 13 – Moral Objections

180, “One lady who left the Church…” – Quoted in Mary Gray, “Lapsed Catholics weigh in on why they left the Church,” Our Sunday Visitor Newsweekly. Accessed online at https://www.osv.com/OSVNewsweekly/Article/TabId/535/ArtMID/13567/ArticleID/16269/Lapsed-Catholics-weigh-in-on-why-they-left-Church.aspx#sthash.FhfEB8uj.dpuf
180-181, “Pope Francis replied…” – Quoted in “‘Who am I to judge?’ Pope’s remarks to not change church teaching,” Catholic News Service, July 31, 2013.
183, “…a collection of national surveys revealed…” – See David Kinnaman, unChristian: What a New Generation Really Thinks About Christianity…And Why It Matters (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 2007), 27.
185, “…a major national Pew study found that…” – Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape,” May 12, 2015.
187, “For example, Kat said…” – Via email.
190-191, “Patricia is quite sure…” – Via email.
191, “Today, roughly two thirds of couples…” – Lauren Fox, “The Science of Cohabitation: A Step Toward Marriage, Not a Rebellion”, The Atlantic, March 20, 2104. Accessed online at http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/03/the-science-of-cohabitation-a-step-toward-marriage-not-a-rebellion/284512.
191, “…only one-of-four Americans disapprove of cohabiting before marriage.” – Brandon Gaille, “43 Statistics On Cohabitation Before Marriage”, BrandonGaille.com, September 9, 2014. Accessed online at http://brandongaille.com/43-statistics-on-cohabitation-before-marriage.
191, “A Pew study found…” – Quoted in Anne Hendershott, “Digging deeper into the Pew data about the nones, millennials, and Christians”, Catholic World Report, May 25, 2015. Accessed online at http://www.catholicworldreport.com/Blog/3900/digging_deeper_into_the_pew_data_about_nones_millennials_and_christians.aspx
191, “The United States Conference of Catholic Bishops agrees…” – United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, “Marriage Preparation And Cohabiting Couples: An Information Report on New Realities and Pastoral Practices”, 1999. Accessed online at http://www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/marriage-and-family/marriage/marriage-preparation/cohabiting.cfm
192, “Bradford Wilcox…observes that…” – Quoted in Lauren Fox, “The Science of Cohabitation: A Step Toward Marriage, Not a Rebellion”, The Atlantic, March 20, 2104. Accessed online at http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/03/the-science-of-cohabitation-a-step-toward-marriage-not-a-rebellion/284512
194, “Courtney, a former Catholic…” – Via email.
195, “As the leaders behind Catholic Voices explain…” – Austen Ivereigh and Kathryn Jean Lopez, How to Defend the Faith Without Raising Your Voice: Civil Responses to Catholic Hot Button Issues, Revised and Updated (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2015), 188.
195-196, “Notre Dame theologian Catherine Lacugna paints the statistical picture…” – Catherine Lacugna, “Catholic Women as Ministers and Theologians,” America, October 10, 1992.
197, “In response to questions about why they left the Catholic Church…” – Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life, “Faith in Flux: Changes in Religious Affiliation in the U.S.”, April 2009, 9.
198, “Dr. Marguerite Duane, a family physician and professor…” – Cited by Matthew Bunson, “Pill’s pitfalls create ‘contraceptive conundrum’”, Our Sunday Visitor, August 12, 2015
199, “When used properly, some NFP methods have been measured to be over 98% effective…” – See Joe Heschmeyer, “Just How Effective is Natural Family Planning, Anyway?”, Shameless Popery, September 11, 2013
202, “One mother verbalized the thoughts that many parents share…” – Quoted in Lorene Hanley Duquin, When a Loved One Leaves the Church (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2001), 192.
202, “I was told that my divorce…” – Ibid., 193.

Chapter 14 – Theological Objections

207, “The French mathematician Blaise Pascal said…” – Blaise Pascal, Pensees, 430.
207, “A recent Pew Survey found that one-third of former-Catholics…” – Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life, “Faith in Flux: Changes in Religious Affiliation in the U.S.”, April 2009, 13
207, “Similarly, around a quarter of young adults believe…” – Barna Group, “Six Reasons Young Christians Leave Church” (September 28, 2011). Accessed online at https://www.barna.org/teens-next-gen.article/528-six-reasons-young-christians-leave-church
209, “The torch of science can’t illuminate…” – Trent Horn, 20 Answers: Faith and Science (El Cajon, CA: Catholic Answers, 2015), 25
209, “Recent surveys show that roughly half of working scientists…” – Cited in Fr. Robert Spitzer, “Jesuit Philosopher Works to Demonstrate Compatibility of Faith and Science,” Catholic World Report, November 4, 2014. Accessed online at http://www.catholicworldreport.com/Item/3492/jesuit_philosopher_works_to_demonstrate_compatibility_of_faith_and_science.aspx
212, “Sometimes even Catholics have lost or never had the chance…” – Pope John Paul II, L’Osservatore Romano (English Edition), March 24, 1993, 3.
212, “…only 60 percent of Catholic adults even believe…” – Cited in Sherry Weddell, Forming Intentional Disciples: The Path to Knowing and Following Jesus (Fort Wayne, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2015), 35
213, “In my experience as a Protestant…” – Accessed online at http://www.catholiceducation.org/en/religion-and-philosophy/apologetics/how-i-led-catholics-out-of-the-church.html
216, “…all clergy should remain in close contact with the Scriptures…” – Dei Verbum, 25
217, “…eight-in-ten (81%) cited enjoying the religious services…” – Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life, “Faith in Flux: Changes in Religious Affiliation in the U.S.”, April 2009, 28
219, “Susan keenly remembers…” – Via email.

Conclusion

223, “…focus on helping your child become 1% closer to God each day than the day before.” – Thanks to the “Art of Manliness” blog for this idea. See Brett and Kate McKay, “Get 1% Better Every Day: The Kaizen Way to Self-Improvement”, August 10, 2015. Accessed online at http://www.artofmanliness.com/2015/08/10/get-1-better-every-day-the-kaizen-way-to-self-improvement