Bonus Resources
Chapter 1 – Why Are They Leaving?
- “America’s Changing Religious Landscape” (Pew Research Center)
- “Joy and Grievance in an American Diocese: Results from Online Surveys of Active and Inactive Catholics in Central Illinois” (Diocese of Springfield)
- “Faith in Flux: Changes in Religious Affiliation in the U.S.” (Pew Research Center)
- Young Catholic America: Emerging Adults In, Out Of, and Gone from the Church by Christian Smith, Kyle Longest, Jonathan Hill, and Kari Christoffersen
- Moralistic Therapeutic Deism
- “Moralistic Therapeutic Deism” (Wikipedia)
- “Moralistic Therapeutic Deism–the New American Religion” by Albert Mohler, Jr. (Christian Post)
- “Moralistic Therapeutic Deism & The Failure Of Church Leadership” by Rod Dreher (The American Conservative)
Chapter 2 – Where Are They Going?
- “Nones on the Rise” (Pew Research Center)
- Search and Rescue: How to Bring Your Family and Friends Into or Back Into the Catholic Church by Patrick Madrid
- “America’s Changing Religious Landscape” (Pew Research Center)
- “Why What You Believe Matters” (Video) by Bishop Robert Barron
- 3 Books That Debunk the New Atheists
- 20 Answers: Atheism by Matt Fradd
- Answering Atheism: Making the Case for God with Logic and Charity by Trent Horn
- The Last Superstition: A Refutation of the New Atheism by Edward Feser
Chapter 3 – The Five Big Myths About Fallen-Away Catholics
- Young Catholic America: Emerging Adults In, Out Of, and Gone from the Church by Christian Smith, Kyle Longest, Jonathan Hill, and Kari Christoffersen
- “Knot Yet: The Benefits and Costs of Delayed Marriage in America” (National Marriage Project)
- “Just How Much Did the Recession Make 20-Somethings Delay Children?” (Wall Street Journal)
- “Faith in Flux: Changes in Religious Affiliation in the U.S.” (Pew Research Center)
- Catechism of the Catholic Church, 2225
Chapter 4 – The Basics
- Young Catholic America: Emerging Adults In, Out Of, and Gone from the Church by Christian Smith, Kyle Longest, Jonathan Hill, and Kari Christoffersen
- The Joy of the Gospel (Evangelii Gaudium) by Pope Francis
- Forming Intentional Disciples by Sherry Weddell
- “The Five Thresholds of Conversion” (Sherry Weddell)
Chapter 5 – Pray, Fast, and Sacrifice
- St. Monica (Wikipedia)
- St. Augustine (Wikipedia)
- A Beginner’s Guide to the Rosary
- PrayMoreNovenas.com
- Chaplet of Divine Mercy (EWTN)
- Why and How to Fast (Today’s Catholic News)
- Spiritual Weapons: Fasting (The Catholic Gentleman)
- 3 Best Books on the Holy Spirit
Chapter 6 – Equip Yourself
- (Video) Story of Brandon Vogt’s conversion to Catholicism
- Catholic Bible Reading Plans
- Read the Catechism in a Year (free daily emails)
- Recommended Catholic Books
- Must-Reads
- Catholicism: A Journey to the Heart of the Faith by Bishop Robert Barron
- Fundamentals of the Faith: Essays in Christian Apologetics by Peter Kreeft
- Essential Catholic Survival Guide by Catholic Answers Staff
- How to Defend the Faith Without Raising Your Voice: Civil Responses to Catholic Hot Button Issues, Revised and Updated by Austen Ivereigh and Kathryn Jean Lopez
- Books on Particular Topics
- Abortion – Persuasive Pro-Life: How to Talk About Our Culture’s Toughest Issue
- Annulments – Annulments and the Catholic Church: Straight Answers to Tough Questions
- Atheism – Answering Atheism: How to Make the Case for God with Logic and Charity
- Bible – The Bible Compass: A Catholic’s Guide to Navigating the Scriptures
- Confession – Lord, Have Mercy: The Healing Power of Confession
- Contraception – Sex au Naturel: What It Is and Why It’s Good for Your Marriage
- Death – Love Is Stronger Than Death
- Divorce – Divorced. Catholic. Now What?
- Early Church – The Fathers Know Best: Your Essential Guide to the Teachings of the Early Church
- Eucharist – This Is My Body: An Evangelical Discovers the Real Presence
- Jesus – Jesus Shock
- Heaven – Heaven: The Heart’s Deepest Longing
- History – Seven Lies about Catholic History: Infamous Myths about the Church’s Past and How to Answer Them
- Homosexuality – Gay and Catholic: Accepting My Sexuality, Finding Community, Living My Faith
- Mary – Behold Your Mother: A Biblical and Historical Defense of the Marian Doctrines
- Mass – The Lamb’s Supper: The Mass as Heaven on Earth
- Pope – Pope Fiction: Answers to 30 Myths and Misconceptions about the Papacy
- Pornography – Delivered: True Stories of Men and Women Who Turned from Porn to Purity
- Protestantism – The Protestant’s Dilemma: How the Reformation’s Shocking Consequences Point to the Truth of Catholicism
- Sacred Tradition – By What Authority? An Evangelical Discovers Catholic Tradition
- Saints – Any Friend of God Is a Friend of Mine: A Biblical and Historical Explanation of the Catholic Doctrine of the Communion of Saints
- Salvation – The Drama of Salvation: How God Rescues You from Your Sins and Delivers You to Eternal Life
- Same-Sex Marriage – Getting the Marriage Conversation Right: A Guide for Effective Dialogue
- Science and Faith – Faith, Science, and Reason: Theology on the Cutting Edge
- Sexuality – Good News About Sex and Marriage: Answers to Your Honest Questions about Catholic Teaching
- Suffering – Making Sense Out of Suffering
- Must-Reads
- Recommended Websites
- Recommended Mobile Apps
- How to Prepare and Share Your Testimony
- “Giving Your Testimony” (Ask a Catholic a Question)
- “Sharing Your Testimony 101” (Canadian Catholic)
- “Knowing Your Testimony” (ACNM)
Chapter 7 – Plant the Seeds
- “5 Tips to Help You Forgive — And Become Healthier” (HuffPost)
- “The 12 Best Seed Gifts to Spark Your Child’s Return” (PDF)
- The Hidden Power of Kindness by Fr. Lawrence Lovasik
Chapter 8 – Start the Conversation
- Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions by Greg Koukl
- “Questions to Ask Others When Evangelizing” (Marcel LeJeune, Aggie Catholics Blog)
- “The Apologist’s Most Important Tool” (Trent Horn, Catholic Answers Blog)
Chapter 9 – Move the Dialogue Forward
- 5 Best Books to Clear up Catholic Misconceptions
- Catholicism and Fundamentalism by Karl Keating
- What Catholics Really Believe: 52 Answers to Common Misconceptions About the Catholic Faith by Karl Keating
- The Seven Big Myths About the Catholic Church by Christopher Kaczor
- Seven Lies About Catholic History: Infamous Myths about the Church’s Past and How to Answer Them by Diane Moczar
- The Catholic Church & Science: Answering the Questions, Exposing the Myths by Benjamin Wiker
- Seeds of the Word: Finding God in the Culture by Bishop Robert Barron
- “20 Arguments for God’s Existence” by Peter Kreeft
- 5 Best Books On Pope Francis
- The Great Reformer: Francis and the Making of a Radical Pope by Austen Ivereigh
- The Name of God is Mercy by Pope Francis
- The Church of Mercy by Pope Francis
- A Big Heart Open to God: A Conversation with Pope Francis by Pope Francis
- The Francis Miracle: Inside the Transformation of the Pope and the Church by John L. Allen, Jr.
Chapter 10 – Invite and Connect
- List of Catholic retreat centers
- 5 Best Parish Study Programs
Notes and Citations
Introduction
- xvii, “My son and his wife…” – Quoted in Lorene Hanley Duquin, When a Loved One Leaves the Church (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2001), 45.
- xvii, “All of this is so humiliating…” – Quoted in Lorene Hanley Duquin, When a Loved One Leaves the Church (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2001), 46.
Chapter 1 – Why Are They Leaving?
- 2, “The latest data shows that half…”
- 2, “…just 7% of young people raised in the Church still actively practice their faith…” – Quoted in Thomas Baker, “Young Catholic America”, Commonweal Magazine, October 9, 2014.
- 2, “…eight-in-ten (79%) who drift away from faith leave before age 23…” – Cited by Pew Research Center, “The Shifting Religious Identity of Latinos in the United States”, May 7, 2014.
- 3, “…one-in-four Hispanics in America are now former Catholics…” – Cited by Pew Research Center, “The Shifting Religious Identity of Latinos in the United States”, May 7, 2014.
- 3, “As many as there are people.” – Pope Benedict XVI and Peter Seewald, Salt of the Earth: Christianity and the Catholic Church at the End of the Millennium (San Francisco: Ignatius Press, 1997), 8.
- 3, “The Church is a house with a hundred gates…” – G.K. Chesterton, The Catholic Church and Conversion (San Francisco: Ignatius Press, 2007, original 1926), 38.
- 3, “…for every person who becomes Catholic, roughly 6.5 leave the Church.” – Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 14.
- 5, “Here were the most common reasons people gave…” – Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life, “Faith in Flux: Changes in Religious Affiliation in the U.S.”, April 2009, 6.
- 6-7, “The Diocese of Trenton, NJ found similar conclusions…” – Quoted in William J. Bryan, “Why They Left”, America, April 30, 2012. Accessed online at http://americamagazine.org/issue/5138/article/why-they-left.
- 8, “One student responded…” – Sarah, “Christian Formation and the Cost of the Culture Wars”, A Queer Calling, May 1, 2014. Accessed online at http://aqueercalling.com/author/hamsterandsquirrelgmail-com.
- 8, “…among former Catholic who are now unaffiliated with any religion…” – Pew Research Center, “U.S. Religious Landscape Survey”, June 1, 2008.
- 8, “A group of Notre Dame researchers found…” – Quoted by Ann Carey, “Portrait of young Catholics sobering but vital”, Our Sunday Visitor, June 11, 2014.
- 9, “…what sociologists Christian Smith and Melinda Lundquist Denton have coined ‘moralistic therapeutic deism.’” – See Christian Smith and Melinda Lundquist Denton, Soul Searching: The Religious and Spiritual Lives of American Teenagers (Oxford: Oxford University Press, 2009), 163.
- 9, “More than half (54%) of nominally Catholic young adults believe in God but think he is not personal.” – Christian Smith, Kyle Longest, Jonathan Hill, Kari Christoffersen, Young Catholic America: Emerging Adults In, Out Of, and Gone from the Church (New York: Oxford University Press, 2014), 67.
- 10, “C.S. Lewis gives voice to this view…” – C.S. Lewis, The Problem of Pain (New York: Macmillan, 1962), 40.
Chapter 2 – Where Are They Going?
- 14, “From 2007 to 2014, the ‘unaffiliated’ percentage of America soared from 16% to 23%.” – Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 3.
- 14, “…21% were raised in an ‘unaffiliated’ home while 28% were raised Catholic…” – Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 43.
- 14, “Just 36.” – Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 5.
- 15, “…twice as likely now to identify as ‘nothing’ than as ‘Catholic.’” – Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 12.
- 15, “Some of their traits may surprise you…” – Pew Research Center, “‘Nones’ on the Rise”, October 9, 2012.
- 17, “If your son is like Rick, Madrid counsels…” – Patrick Madrid, Search and Rescue: How to Bring Your Family and Friends Into or Back Into the Catholic Church (Manchester, NH: Sophia Institute Press, 2001), 57.
- 17, “…share of American adults dropped from 18% in 2007 to 14% in 2014.” – Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 20.
- 19, “I believe in God and basically I celebrate Christmas.” – Quoted by Anna Sutherland, “Young Catholic America”, Books and Culture, May/June 2014.
- 19, “I simply don’t practice anymore.” – Via email.
- 19-20, “…as sociologist Christian Smith notes…” – Christian Smith, Kyle Longest, Jonathan Hill, Kari Christoffersen, Young Catholic America: Emerging Adults In, Out Of, and Gone from the Church (New York: Oxford University Press, 2014), 107.
- 20, “…getting up early on Sunday is difficult.” – Via email.
- 20, “Molly Oshatz, a Catholic who once identified as a ‘meh’ young adult herself…” – Molly Oshatz, First Things, “From ‘Meh’ to ‘Amen’”, June 8, 2015. Accessed online at http://www.firstthings.com/web-exclusives/2015/06/can-the-nones-go-from-meh-to-amen
- 21, “But as G.K. Chesterton observed…” – G.K. Chesterton, The Autobiography of G.K. Chesterton (San Francisco: Ignatius Press, 2006, original ed. 1936), 217.
- 21, “Frank Sheed and Maisie Ward…” – Frank Sheed and Maisie Ward, Catholic Evidence Training Outlines (Steubenville, OH; Franciscan University Press, 1993, original 1948), 158.
- 21, “He needs to see what the convert C.S. Lewis came to realize…” – C.S. Lewis, God in the Dock (Grand Rapids, MI: Eerdmans, 2014, original 1970), 102.
- 22, “Stephen, who grew up Catholic…” – Quoted in Lorene Hanley Duquin, When a Loved One Leaves the Church (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2001), 38.
- 24, “…explains researchers Christian Smith…” – Christian Smith, Kyle Longest, Jonathan Hill, Kari Christoffersen, Young Catholic America: Emerging Adults In, Out Of, and Gone from the Church (New York: Oxford University Press, 2014), 102.
- 24, “Their numbers have doubled over the last decade…” – Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape”, May 12, 2015, 30.
- 24, “12% of former Catholics identify as atheist and 16% as agnostic.” – Cited by Mark Gray, “Your Average American Catholic”, America Magazine, May 18, 2015.
Chapter 3 – The Five Big Myths About Fallen-Away Catholics
- 28, “According to Notre Dame sociologists…” – Christian Smith, Kyle Longest, Jonathan Hill, Kari Christoffersen, Young Catholic America: Emerging Adults In, Out Of, and Gone from the Church (New York: Oxford University Press, 2014), 117
- 28, “Researches at the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia conclude…” – See “In Brief” section of report titled “Knot Yet: The Benefits and Costs of Delayed Marriage in America”. Accessed online at http://twentysomethingmarriage.org/in-brief.
- 29, “…the 2013 data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) revealed that…” – Quoted in Neil Shah, “Just How Much Did the Recession Make 20-Somethings Delay Children?”, Wall Street Journal, April 28, 2015. Accessed online at http://blogs.wsj.com/economics/2015/04/28/just-how-much-did-the-recession-make-20-somethings-delay-children.
- 30, “Lisa, a mother of two fallen-away Catholics…” – Via email.
- 30-31, “In their book, Young Catholic America…” – Christian Smith, Kyle Longest, Jonathan Hill, Kari Christoffersen, Young Catholic America: Emerging Adults In, Out Of, and Gone from the Church (New York: Oxford University Press, 2014), 253
- 31, “…have little to no effect on whether young people sustain their faith into adulthood.” – Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life, “Faith in Flux: Changes in Religious Affiliation in the U.S.”, April 2009, 11.
- 31, “In the Catechism of the Catholic Church…” – CCC 2225.
- 32, “Ronda’s son left the Church at age 16…” – Quoted in “To the Parent of a Prodigal”, Ronda’s Resting Place. Accessed online at http://rondasrestingplace.net/subpage29.html.
- 33, “As my friend Bert Ghezzi counsels…” – Bert Ghezzi, “When Someone You Love Leaves the Church”, pamphlet (Fort Wayne, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2009).
- 34, “…writes Carol Barnier…” – Carol Barnier, Engaging Today’s Prodigal: Clear Thinking, New Approaches, and Reasons for Hope (Chicago, IL: Moody Publishers, 2012), 111.
Chapter 4 – The Basics
- 40, “Catholic sociologist Christian Smith…” – Christian Smith, Kyle Longest, Jonathan Hill, Kari Christoffersen, Young Catholic America: Emerging Adults In, Out Of, and Gone from the Church (New York: Oxford University Press, 2014), 27
- 41, “Why? Because ‘close relationship to religious adults…’” – Ibid., 268.
- 41, “One young man confessed…” – Quoted in Lorene Hanley Duquin, When a Loved One Leaves the Church (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2001), 89.
- 42, “A priest recently observed to me…” – Via personal conversation.
- 44, “Abraham Piper, who drifted away from church as a teen…” – Abraham Piper, “Let Them Come Home,” Christianity.com, July 19, 2013. Accessed online at http://www.christianity.com/theology/12-ways-to-love-your-wayward-child-11625957.html.
- 44-45, “Pope Francis has spoken out often against…” – Pope Francis, “A Big Heart Open to God,” America
- 46, “Ugh! It just bugs me so much…” – Via email.
- 46, “My parents and grandparents send me at least one ridiculous email a day…” – Via email.
- 47, “St. John Paul Ii…summed up a better alternative strategy…” – Redemptoris Missio, 39.
- 51, “In fact, Weddell affirms…” – Sherry Weddell, Forming Intentional Disciples: The Path to Knowing and Following Jesus (Fort Wayne, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2015), 130
- 53, “…writes Abraham Piper, himself a former rebellious teenager…” – Abraham Piper, “Let Them Come Home,” Christianity.com, July 19, 2013. Accessed online at http://www.christianity.com/theology/12-ways-to-love-your-wayward-child-11625957.html.
Chapter 5 – Pray, Fast, and Sacrifice
- 58, “I prayed for St. Monica to intercede for our family members….” – Quoted by Joseph Pronechen, “St. Monica, Pray for Our Wayward Children’s Conversions”, National Catholic Register, August 24, 2013.
- 59, “By far, the most common responses were…” – Mary M. Gray, “The Catholic Family: 21st Century Challenges in the United States,” The Center for Applied Research in the Apostolate (CARA), June 2015
- 60, “Bishop Robert Barron once visited a college campus…” – See Bishop Robert Barron, “Bishop Barron on Evangelizing with the Heart of a Shepherd,” YouTube, September 25, 2014
- 61, “The survey of Catholic parents mentioned above asked…” – Mary M. Gray, “The Catholic Family: 21st Century Challenges in the United States,” The Center for Applied Research in the Apostolate (CARA), June 2015
- 64, “It is impossible for me to explain how helpful the Holy Hour has been…” – Fulton Sheen, Treasure In Clay: The Autobiography of Fulton J. Sheen (New York: Image Books, 2008, original 1980), 201-202.
- 65, “Our Lord told St. Faustina…” – St. Faustina Kowalski, Divine Mercy in My Soul (Stockbridge, MA: Congregation of Marians of the Immaculate Conception, 1987), 1209, 1397.
- 65-66, “Rhonda, a New Hampshire mother of three…” – Quoted by Marge Fenelon, “What to Do When Children Leave the Church”, National Catholic Register, May 27, 2011. Accessed online at http://www.ncregister.com/site/article/what-to-do-when-children-leave-the-church.
- 70, “My God, grant me the conversion of my parish…” – Quoted in Fr. Lance W. Harlow, “The immolations of the Cure d’Ars”, Homiletic and Pastoral Review, March 2011, 18-19.
Chapter 6 – Equip Yourself
- 86, “The difficulty of explaining ‘why I am a Catholic’…” – G.K. Chesterton, “Why I Am a Catholic”. Accessed online at http://www.chesterton.org/why-i-am-a-catholic.
- 89, “Your outline will include four elements…” – Shaun McAffee, Filling Our Father’s House: What Converts Can Teach Us About Evangelization (Manchester, NH: Sophia Institute Press, 2015), 37-38.
- 89, “All people of God have a unique story to tell…” – Ibid., 40.
Chapter 7 – Plant the Seeds
- 91, “I was baptized in the Catholic Church, and always called myself a Catholic…” – Via email.
- 92, “The great danger for any parent…” – Rob Parsons, Bringing Home the Prodigals (Colorado Springs, CO: Authentic Publishing, 2007), 34.
- 97, “When the Father’s house is filled with the Father’s love…” – Quoted in Rob Parsons, Bringing Home the Prodigals (Colorado Springs, CO: Authentic Publishing, 2007), 83
- 97, “Rob Parsons tells of a young man…” – Rob Parsons, Bringing Home the Prodigals (Colorado Springs, CO: Authentic Publishing, 2007), 13.
- 98, “Abraham Piper notes that…” – Abraham Piper, “Let Them Come Home,” Christianity.com, July 19, 2013. Accessed online at http://www.christianity.com/theology/12-ways-to-love-your-wayward-child-11625957.html.
- 99, “My son was given a copy of Rediscover Catholicism…” – Quoted in Matthew Kelly, The Four Signs of a Dynamic Catholic (Hebron, KY: Beacon Press, 2013), 101.
- 99, “Chela, the mother of a teenage agnostic, shared with me…” – Via email.
- 100-103, “One of my favorite ‘seed gift’ stories come from my friend Leila” – Leila Miller, “Part Two: My Mother-in-Law Carol’s Conversion Story”, Little Catholic Bubble blog, January 1, 2015. Accessed online at http://littlecatholicbubble.blogspot.com/2015/01/part-two-my-mother-in-law-carols.html.
- 104, “The head researcher explained…” – Larry Alex Taunton, “Listening to Young Atheists: Lessons for a Stronger Christianity,” The Atlantic, June 6, 2013. Accessed online at http://www.theatlantic.com/national/archive/2013/06/listening-to-young-atheists-lessons-for-a-stronger-christianity/276584.
- 105, “The Pew Research Center found…” – Amanda Lenhart, “Teens, Social Media & Technology Overview 2015,” Pew Research Center, April 9, 2015.
Chapter 8 – Start the Conversation
- 107, “A recent survey of young Catholics found…” – Mark Gray, “The Catholic Teenager: A few mysteries solved,” CARA 1984 blog, May 2, 2013. Accessed online at http://nineteensixty-four.blogspot.com/2013/05/the-catholic-teenager-few-mysteries.html.
- 107, “Although I can draw to Christ the souls of strangers…” – Patrick Madrid, Search and Rescue: How to Bring Your Family and Friends Into or Back Into the Catholic Church (Manchester, NH: Sophia Institute Press, 2001), xix.
- 107, “…what Christian author Gregory Koukl calls ‘friendly curiosity’…” – Gregory Koukl, Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2009), 20.
- 109, “Just ask about his soul…” – Abraham Piper, “Let Them Come Home,” Christianity.com, July 19, 2013. Accessed online at http://www.christianity.com/theology/12-ways-to-love-your-wayward-child-11625957.html.
- 110, “Theologian Francis Schaeffer was once asked…” – Quoted in Jonathan K. Dodson, The Unbelievable Gospel: Say Something Worth Believing (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2014), 51.
- 111-112, “Marcel LeJeune, campus minister at Texas A&M University…” – Marcel LeJeune, “Questions to Ask Others When Evangelizing,” Aggie Catholics Blog, May 11, 2015. Accessed online at http://www.aggiecatholicblog.org/2015/05/questions-to-ask-others-when-evangelizing
- 113, “Evangelist Gregory Koukl calls this the ‘Columbo tactic’…” – Gregory Koukl, Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2009), 47.
- 113, “…Trent Horn, expert apologist at Catholic Answers, has found five to be the most helpful…” – See Trent Horn, “The Apologist’s Most Important Tool,” Catholic Answers Blog. Accessed online at http://www.catholic.com/blog/trent-horn/the-apologist%E2%80%99s-most-important-tool.
- 116, “Gregory Koukl offers a similar approach…” – Gregory Koukl, Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2009), 86.
Chapter 9 – Move the Dialogue Forward
- 119, “Gregory Koukl has a good rule…” – Gregory Koukl, Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2009), 30
- 120, “…55% of communication is body language, 38% is tone of voice, and 7% is the actual words spoken.” – Jeff Thompson, “Is Nonverbal Communication a Numbers Game?”, Psychology Today. Accessed online at https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/beyond-words/201109/is-nonverbal-communication-numbers-game
- 122-123, “Anglican Bishop N.T. Wright offers a telling anecdote.” – N.T. Wright, “Jesus and the Identity of God,” Ex Auditu 1998, 14, 42–56. Accessed online at http://ntwrightpage.com/Wright_JIG.htm.
- 123, “Archbishop Fulton J. Sheen famous observed…” – Fulton Sheen, preface to Radio Replies, Volume 1. Accessed online at http://www.radioreplies.info/vol-1-preface.php
- 125-126, “Remaining calm while discussing faith with your child…” – Austen Ivereigh and Kathryn Jean Lopez, How to Defend the Faith Without Raising Your Voice: Civil Responses to Catholic Hot Button Issues, Revised and Updated (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2015), 15.
- 129, “‘Shoe pebble’ questions work in a similar way.” – Credit for “shoe pebble” concept goes to Gregory Koukl, Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2009), 38.
- 130, “…about 90% of Catholics giving him a favorable rating” – Pew Forum, “Pope Francis Viewed Positively by the U.S. Public and Catholics”. Accessed online at http://www.pewforum.org/2015/06/16/catholics-divided-over-global-warming
- 130, “One viral online article carried the title…” – Dave Sloan, “Pope Francis Made My Mom Stop Hating Catholicism,” Aleteia. Accessed online at http://www.newsmax.com/US/Pope-Frances-Catholic-aleteia-mother-despised/2015/04/06/id/636755.
- 131, “Another person shared the following story…” – Catholic Voices, “Ten Principles of Civil Communication,” Our Sunday Visitor, pamphlet.
- 132, “As Pope Francis says…” – Pope Francis, Angelus message, December 13, 2013.
Chapter 10 – Invite and Connect
- 139, “Pope Paul VI wrote…” – Paul VI, Evangelii Nuntiandi, 41.
- 141, “CARA, the leading Catholic research group, found that…” – Quoted in Mark Gray, “Lapsed Catholics weigh in on why they left the Church,” Our Sunday Visitor Newsweekly. Accessed online at https://www.osv.com/OSVNewsweekly/Article/TabId/535/ArtMID/13567/ArticleID/16269/Lapsed-Catholics-weigh-in-on-why-they-left-Church.aspx#sthash.FhfEB8uj.dpuf
- 143-144, “It would have been hard to stick with the Mass…” – Quoted in Kristin Peterson, “You can go home again: Catholics return to the church”, US Catholic, June 1, 2010. Accessed online at http://www.uscatholic.org/church/2010/06/you-can-go-home-again-catholics-return-church
- 144, “Carol Barnier knows this from experience…” – Carol Barnier, Engaging Today’s Prodigal: Clear Thinking, New Approaches, and Reasons for Hope (Chicago, IL: Moody Publishers, 2012), 111.
- 145, “Think of your own journey to Christ…” – Gregory Koukl, Tactics: A Game Plan for Discussing Your Christian Convictions (Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan, 2009), 39.
Chapter 11 – Close the Loop
- 147, “Catholics stop too soon when they evangelize…” – Marcel LeJeune, “The Fatal Flaw of Catholics Who Evangelize,” Aggie Catholics Blog, June 1, 2015.
- 147 – “Shaun McAfee, a recent convert to Catholicism…” – Shaun McAffee, Filling Our Father’s House: What Converts Can Teach Us About Evangelization (Manchester, NH: Sophia Institute Press, 2015), 45.
- 149, “Campus minister Marcel LeJeune adds one more bit of advice…” – Marcel LeJeune, “The Fatal Flaw of Catholics Who Evangelize,” Aggie Catholics Blog, June 1, 2015.
- 154, “Instead, as one author put it, parishes today are…” – Sally L. Mews, Returning Home to Your Catholic Faith: An Invitation (Liguori, MO: Liguori Publications, 2003), 25.
- 156, “Since cohabitation is not in itself a canonical impediment to marriage…” – United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, “Marriage Preparation And Cohabiting Couples: An Information Report on New Realities and Pastoral Practices”, 1999. Accessed online at http://www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/marriage-and-family/marriage/marriage-preparation/cohabiting.cfm.
- 157, “I wish I could come back to the Catholic Church…” – Quoted in Pete Vere, “Strong Medicine”, Catholic Answers Magazine, Volume 18, Number 9.
- 159, “Lorene Hanley Duquin debunks some other popular myths about annulments…” – Lorene Hanley Duquin, When a Loved One Leaves the Church (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2001), 198.
Chapter 12 – Personal Objections
- 168, “Only 46% of Catholics are aware…” – Mark M. Gray, “Your Average American Catholic”, America, May 18, 2015. Accessed online at http://americamagazine.org/issue/your-average-american-catholic.
- 168-169, “Researchers from the Diocese of Trenton, New Jersey…” – See William J. Bryan, “Why They Left”, America, April 30, 2012. Accessed online at http://americamagazine.org/issue/5138/article/why-they-left.
- 171, “A recent survey found that only 61% of Catholic teens agree…” – Mark M. Gray, “The Catholic Teenager: A few mysteries solved,” 1984 Blog. Accessed online at http://nineteensixty-four.blogspot.com/2013/05/the-catholic-teenager-few-mysteries.html.
- 172, “To get rid of my sins.” – G.K. Chesterton, The Autobiography of G.K.Chesterton (San Francisco: Ignatius Press, 2006, original 1936), 324.
- 175, “A recent Pew Forum survey found that nearly 40% of marriages…” – Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape,” May 12, 2015
- 176, “Elizabeth struggled with her faith for many years…” – Via email.
- 176-177, “Marisa offers another heartbreaking experience.” – Via email.
- 177, “My sister says Catholics are hypocrites…” – Quoted in Lorene Hanley Duquin, When a Loved One Leaves the Church (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2001), 22.
- 178-179, “…he usually answers with this…” – Fr. Andrew Carrozza, “God would never forgive me THAT!” Accessed online at http://fathercarrozza.com/2012/08/24/god-would-never-forgive-me-that.
Chapter 13 – Moral Objections
- 180, “One lady who left the Church…” – Quoted in Mary Gray, “Lapsed Catholics weigh in on why they left the Church,” Our Sunday Visitor Newsweekly. Accessed online at https://www.osv.com/OSVNewsweekly/Article/TabId/535/ArtMID/13567/ArticleID/16269/Lapsed-Catholics-weigh-in-on-why-they-left-Church.aspx#sthash.FhfEB8uj.dpuf
- 180-181, “Pope Francis replied…” – Quoted in “‘Who am I to judge?’ Pope’s remarks to not change church teaching,” Catholic News Service, July 31, 2013.
- 183, “…a collection of national surveys revealed…” – See David Kinnaman, unChristian: What a New Generation Really Thinks About Christianity…And Why It Matters (Grand Rapids, MI: Baker Books, 2007), 27.
- 185, “…a major national Pew study found that…” – Pew Research Center, “America’s Changing Religious Landscape,” May 12, 2015.
- 187, “For example, Kat said…” – Via email.
- 190-191, “Patricia is quite sure…” – Via email.
- 191, “Today, roughly two thirds of couples…” – Lauren Fox, “The Science of Cohabitation: A Step Toward Marriage, Not a Rebellion”, The Atlantic, March 20, 2104. Accessed online at http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/03/the-science-of-cohabitation-a-step-toward-marriage-not-a-rebellion/284512.
- 191, “…only one-of-four Americans disapprove of cohabiting before marriage.” – Brandon Gaille, “43 Statistics On Cohabitation Before Marriage”, BrandonGaille.com, September 9, 2014. Accessed online at http://brandongaille.com/43-statistics-on-cohabitation-before-marriage.
- 191, “A Pew study found…” – Quoted in Anne Hendershott, “Digging deeper into the Pew data about the nones, millennials, and Christians”, Catholic World Report, May 25, 2015. Accessed online at http://www.catholicworldreport.com/Blog/3900/digging_deeper_into_the_pew_data_about_nones_millennials_and_christians.aspx
- 191, “The United States Conference of Catholic Bishops agrees…” – United States Conference of Catholic Bishops, “Marriage Preparation And Cohabiting Couples: An Information Report on New Realities and Pastoral Practices”, 1999. Accessed online at http://www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/marriage-and-family/marriage/marriage-preparation/cohabiting.cfm
- 192, “Bradford Wilcox…observes that…” – Quoted in Lauren Fox, “The Science of Cohabitation: A Step Toward Marriage, Not a Rebellion”, The Atlantic, March 20, 2104. Accessed online at http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/03/the-science-of-cohabitation-a-step-toward-marriage-not-a-rebellion/284512
- 194, “Courtney, a former Catholic…” – Via email.
- 195, “As the leaders behind Catholic Voices explain…” – Austen Ivereigh and Kathryn Jean Lopez, How to Defend the Faith Without Raising Your Voice: Civil Responses to Catholic Hot Button Issues, Revised and Updated (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2015), 188.
- 195-196, “Notre Dame theologian Catherine Lacugna paints the statistical picture…” – Catherine Lacugna, “Catholic Women as Ministers and Theologians,” America, October 10, 1992.
- 197, “In response to questions about why they left the Catholic Church…” – Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life, “Faith in Flux: Changes in Religious Affiliation in the U.S.”, April 2009, 9.
- 198, “Dr. Marguerite Duane, a family physician and professor…” – Cited by Matthew Bunson, “Pill’s pitfalls create ‘contraceptive conundrum’”, Our Sunday Visitor, August 12, 2015
- 199, “When used properly, some NFP methods have been measured to be over 98% effective…” – See Joe Heschmeyer, “Just How Effective is Natural Family Planning, Anyway?”, Shameless Popery, September 11, 2013
- 202, “One mother verbalized the thoughts that many parents share…” – Quoted in Lorene Hanley Duquin, When a Loved One Leaves the Church (Huntington, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2001), 192.
- 202, “I was told that my divorce…” – Ibid., 193.
Chapter 14 – Theological Objections
- 207, “The French mathematician Blaise Pascal said…” – Blaise Pascal, Pensees, 430.
- 207, “A recent Pew Survey found that one-third of former-Catholics…” – Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life, “Faith in Flux: Changes in Religious Affiliation in the U.S.”, April 2009, 13
- 207, “Similarly, around a quarter of young adults believe…” – Barna Group, “Six Reasons Young Christians Leave Church” (September 28, 2011). Accessed online at https://www.barna.org/teens-next-gen.article/528-six-reasons-young-christians-leave-church
- 209, “The torch of science can’t illuminate…” – Trent Horn, 20 Answers: Faith and Science (El Cajon, CA: Catholic Answers, 2015), 25
- 209, “Recent surveys show that roughly half of working scientists…” – Cited in Fr. Robert Spitzer, “Jesuit Philosopher Works to Demonstrate Compatibility of Faith and Science,” Catholic World Report, November 4, 2014. Accessed online at http://www.catholicworldreport.com/Item/3492/jesuit_philosopher_works_to_demonstrate_compatibility_of_faith_and_science.aspx
- 212, “Sometimes even Catholics have lost or never had the chance…” – Pope John Paul II, L’Osservatore Romano (English Edition), March 24, 1993, 3.
- 212, “…only 60 percent of Catholic adults even believe…” – Cited in Sherry Weddell, Forming Intentional Disciples: The Path to Knowing and Following Jesus (Fort Wayne, IN: Our Sunday Visitor, 2015), 35
- 213, “In my experience as a Protestant…” – Accessed online at http://www.catholiceducation.org/en/religion-and-philosophy/apologetics/how-i-led-catholics-out-of-the-church.html
- 216, “…all clergy should remain in close contact with the Scriptures…” – Dei Verbum, 25
- 217, “…eight-in-ten (81%) cited enjoying the religious services…” – Pew Forum on Religion and Public Life, “Faith in Flux: Changes in Religious Affiliation in the U.S.”, April 2009, 28
- 219, “Susan keenly remembers…” – Via email.
Conclusion
- 223, “…focus on helping your child become 1% closer to God each day than the day before.” – Thanks to the “Art of Manliness” blog for this idea. See Brett and Kate McKay, “Get 1% Better Every Day: The Kaizen Way to Self-Improvement”, August 10, 2015. Accessed online at http://www.artofmanliness.com/2015/08/10/get-1-better-every-day-the-kaizen-way-to-self-improvement